You know the situation and have experienced some variation of it quite a few times in your life: Somebody are not contacting you though you think that you might reasonably expect them to do so. So what's the reason? There are several possibilities. Here are some of them:
- You are simply a less important person in their life than you think. It's not that there is a strong reason for them to not contact you. It's just that there is not a sufficiently interesting reason to actually do so.
- A practical reason of whatever kind makes it impossible for them to contact you.
- Or less dramatic: Not quite impossible but really difficult.
- For the time being their life is filled with so much else that takes their time, energy and attention.
- For whatever reason they do simply not want to have any contact with you anymore.
- They are punishing you for something and are using silence to do that.
- For some reason they think that in the present situation you should take the initiative.
- They do want to contact you but feel uncomfortable about doing so.
- They actually have contacted you but have done it in a way that you have not noticed.
- They have decided that it is best for you that they do not contact you. They believe that they are a complication in your life.
This was a rather long prelude to get to the one point that was my reason to write this post:
I am quite certain that there are some who consciously leave me alone because they believe that this is best for me. They believe that they are - at least for the time being - a complication and a distraction in my life and they don't want to be that. And they expect me to - eventually - understand this.
And I think that I do. Though I may not necessarily agree.
